Father’s Day is a special occasion to honor and celebrate the role of fathers in our lives. Therefore, reflecting on the significance of fatherhood, it’s essential to recognize the unique charisms the Holy Spirit bestows upon men. There is a deep connection between charisms and fatherhood. That we can shed light on how men can embrace their spiritual gifts to become better fathers and leaders.

The Holy Spirit and the Unique Charisms in Men

Simons highlights how the Holy Spirit moves differently in every individual, including men. Men often spend less time reflecting on themselves than they do on caring for their families. However, to be effective fathers and leaders, it is crucial for men to discern and value the charisms bestowed upon them. Simons emphasizes that identifying what the Spirit is doing in their lives is paramount to understanding and appreciating these charisms.

Spiritual Fathers and Christ’s Love

Accordingly, many fathers do reflect the love of God for His Church. These fathers play a vital role in teaching and nurturing others, mirroring God’s love for His children. Father’s Day becomes an opportunity to reflect on the impact spiritual fathers have on shaping our understanding of God’s love.

Leading through Charisms and the Holy Spirit’s Guidance

Men should lead in fatherhood from a place of their charisms. Therefore, By putting the Holy Spirit first, they can tap into an endless stream of grace for their parenting journey. Women are thus encouraged to complement and call out the gifts they see in the men in their lives. This perspective helps create a harmonious and supportive environment for fathers to grow in their roles as spiritual leaders.

Reflecting on Wounds and Seeking Healing

Father’s Day is ideal to reflect on any areas of fatherhood where wounds may have been caused to family members. Approach these situations not with shame, but with a conversation with the Holy Spirit. Accordingly, confession can help address any unaddressed guilt. Ultimately, the focus should be on how to show up differently in similar situations and lean on one’s charisms.

Fatherhood is a calling that requires the guidance of the Holy Spirit and the activation of one’s charisms. Let us recognize and appreciate the unique gifts that men bring to their roles as fathers and leaders. Whether biological or spiritual fathers, their influence shapes the perception of God in the lives of their children. By embracing their charisms, men can lead with greater empowerment. They can deepen their relationship with God and enrich their journey as fathers. Happy Father’s Day!

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Jill Simons [00:00:00]:

Hello and welcome to Charisms for Catholics. My name is Jill Simons and I’m the executive director at many parts ministries where we equip the body of Christ by helping people learn about and discern their charisms, which is really another word for spiritual gifts. When you discern your charisms, you’re able to see how the Holy Spirit is already active in your life and where he is inviting you to further build the church. Let’s dive in. Hello and happy Father’s Day. I am so excited to be chatting with you on this very important day of the year. We have had just elaborate arts and crafts planned for quite a few weeks now that we’re getting to finally pass on to dad and there’s all kinds of excitement amongst the children. And so if you are a biological father, I hope that your children are and potentially your spouse are treating you well today.

Jill Simons [00:01:02]:

And if you are a spiritual father, I hope that that is being recognized as well. And if it is not in your life, I want to recognize it. I want to thank you for your service as a spiritual father because it is so important and teaches us so much about the way that Christ loves the Church and the way that Christ loves all of us because that’s the ideal, right? We’re seeking after this ideal where we’re all men and women called to emulate Christ. But the way that men are called to emulate Christ is in the same kind of extravagant self sacrifice that we see in the person of Christ. And so when we celebrate your fatherhood, as we do today on Father’s Day, we are celebrating that aspect of Christ in you and that way that you image God for his children here on earth in being a father to the people who God has given you to father, either spiritually or biologically. And so what I’d love to talk to you today about briefly is just some ideas for really leading in your fatherhood from this place of your charisms. What does it look like for you to really put the Holy Spirit first as you minister as a father again, whatever that looks like in your life. And for all of you women listening, this is something that you can use to kind of inform how you complement and call out the gifts that you see in men.

Jill Simons [00:02:42]:

In your own spouse, in your priest, in the other men in your life, maybe your brothers, maybe your uncles, whatever the case might be, to really help them know and value how the Holy Spirit is moving in them. Because men run the gamut, right? There’s not a single emotional or spiritual reality that applies to all men. But I think it is kind of a fair trend amongst men to not spend a lot of time thinking about themselves. And I think that this images sense based on the other things that a lot of men are focused on. But that’s why I think it’s so powerful to have peers and have women in their lives call out these gifts that they see in them and really help draw some attention to that. Because as we talk about so frequently here on the podcast and at many parts in general, when we don’t identify what the Holy Spirit is doing, it’s really hard to value it. And so that’s what we’re ultimately doing. We want to call all of the men in our lives.

Jill Simons [00:03:51]:

And if you are a man, I want to invite you to just really value what the Holy Spirit is doing in you. And so when you go through a process of discerning your charisms, which is a great last minute Father’s Day gift, if you haven’t got a present for a father in your life, going ahead and paying for a charism, assessment for them and then just forwarding on the email that has the link to take the actual assessment is a great last minute Father’s Day gift to just help them identify and invest in what the Holy Spirit is doing in them. But if they have already taken it, or this is a journey that they’ve been on for a while. And I want to not just talk to women, because this is what I tend to do. I want to talk to you men listening as well. About how you can do this for yourself is to just really spend some time with those charisms that you either are in the process of discerning or you have discerned and take some prayer time with the Holy Spirit to really think about, how is this showing up in my fatherhood? Because what happens sometimes is that because of the outward focus of a lot of charisms, the idea of building the church, it can be hard to bring them home for some men. And again, this part of the conversation is definitely more geared at those biological fathers who maybe go out and go to work, maybe it’s in ministry, maybe it’s in the secular world, whatever the situation is, and then come home. And I want to invite you to think about the fact that the most powerful place that all of us build the church, but especially fathers, is in the home.

Jill Simons [00:05:49]:

What is it that you show up to your kids with? And when you feel like you maybe don’t have anything left, maybe it’s stress of your job, maybe it’s life situations, maybe it’s health. Whatever it is, when there’s things and things arise for everyone that make you feel like you don’t have what you need to bring to your Fatherhood, these charisms are places where you can show up and allow the Holy Spirit to be the one that’s really actively moving. Even when you don’t have much to give, you feel like you’re at the end of your rope. But when you open these doors of your charisms to the Holy spirit, there is an endless stream of grace available. And so when you look at what is it that the Holy Spirit is empowering me to do, and how can I bring that into my life at home? How can I share these with my wife, how can I share these with my children in ways that inform how they think about and see the person of God? Because for better or for worse, men, you are so many of our first image of God. How you parent, how you serve the children and women and other men in your life, is how a lot of people are influenced in what God is like. And I say that not to put undue pressure on you, but also to help you kind of realize the gravity of the situation, which you may well be already aware of, but that can be an overwhelming, anxiety inducing ask if that is on you, as a human being who is far from perfect, has all your own flaws. That weight of being charisms to the people in your life and being the image of God the Father can be crushing unless you focus on letting Christ lead specifically in the ways that he has shown you that he wants to lead in your life.

Jill Simons [00:08:12]:

These charisms and gifts that he has given you to be able to make Him present so that when you have those times that you’re not the most proud of, that you really don’t have a lot to show up with, you can surrender and let the Holy Spirit to be the one to move in you. And so I just invite you on this Father’s Day to think back on where in your Fatherhood there is some wounding, where there’s been times where you’re aware that maybe you’ve hurt someone in your family, maybe you feel self conscious or shameful about how you showed up as a dad. And if you haven’t brought that to confession yet, then by all means do that. But if you have brought that to confession already, we don’t want to interact with the shame of it. We don’t want to pile on any new shame or anything like that. We just want to have a curious conversation with the Holy Spirit about how you can show up differently in a similar situation next time. Is there a charisms that the Holy Spirit is inviting you to lean on in those moments when you are kind of at the end of what you have to give? And how can you communicate with your spouse or the other people supporting you about what gifts that it’s important for you to receive? What are the things that you need to be filled up with in order to continue to serve and really fulfill the role of your Fatherhood? I hope that reflecting on those kinds of questions and just letting the Holy Spirit fill you becomes a source of encouragement. The fact that God is not done with you.

Jill Simons [00:09:56]:

He’s not disappointed in you. He’s not wishing he had chosen somebody else to father these children or lead this community. He chose you. And he’s good with that. But he also wants to invite you into greater empowerment in stepping into all that he has for you there. And so I just thank you for your service as a fatherhood. And I just invite you to stay curious about how you can decrease and allow the Lord to increase, to not only enrich and ripen the fruit of your fatherhood, but take some of that pressure off of you and really allow you to find a greater freedom even as you embrace greater service in your role as a father. Happy Father’s Day.

Jill Simons [00:10:50]:

Thanks so much for joining us on today’s episode of Charisms for Catholics. If you would like to learn more about your charisms or begin your own discernment journey, head to our website@manypartsministries.com where you can download our free PDF guide to all 24 charisms and also begin your own journey by taking our Charisms assessment, you to.