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Helps is an important charism within the Catholic Church. It is a gift that involves supporting and assisting others in fulfilling their visions, dreams, and callings.

Unveiling the Charism of Helps


Imagine being able to not only recognize but also utilize the extraordinary power of supporting others in their endeavors. The charism of Helps is all about just that. Helps is an accompaniment charism, closely linked with other gifts such as leadership, wisdom, and discernment, enabling individuals to bring collective visions to life.

Uncovering the Hidden Gift


One of the biggest challenges faced by many Catholics is recognizing and valuing their spiritual gifts. The gift of Helps, in particular, is often difficult to define and articulate. However, this charism, though it may seem lesser in the hierarchy of charisms, plays an indispensable role in realizing visionary ideas and implementing long-term plans. Without Helps, those with great vision would not be able to achieve their goals.

Finding Harmony in Community


A key aspect of the Helps charism is its reliance on community and communion within the Church. In understanding our purpose and where we fit in within the Body of Christ, we can fully embrace our charisms. Just as a body functions harmoniously with each part working in tandem, so too must we recognize the importance of using our charisms in harmony with the whole Body of Christ.

Helps versus Service


There is a difference between the Helps and Service charisms. While Service involves a universal calling to serve others in various contexts, Helps is distinctively focused on bringing someone else’s vision to fruition. It entails finding ways to assist and support others in their everyday situations, such as in organizations, ministries, marriages, and families.

Partnerships of Vision and Helps


Within marriages and families, the combination of visionary partners and those with the gift of Helps creates a dynamic partnership. The Helps charism perfectly complements the visionary partner by bridging the gap between ideas and their execution. In such partnerships, both individuals contribute their unique gifts to foster growth and success in pursuing shared goals.


While it may not always be available in our current life situations, we can remain open to the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. We can find fulfillment in using this gift to support others and bring their visions to life.

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Jill Simons [00:00:00]:

Hello and welcome to Charisms for Catholics. My name is Jill Simons and I’m the executive director at Many Parts Ministries where we equip the Body of Christ by helping people learn about and discern their charisms which is really another word for spiritual gifts. When you discern your charisms you’re able to see how the Holy Spirit is already active in your life and where he is inviting you to further build the Church. Let’s dive in. Today we are chatting about the charism of Helps which I think is one of those ones that I get the most questions about. So the definition of Helps is empowering an individual to be a particular support to another person’s service, ministry, vocation, whatever the case might be, through the use of their own gifts and talents. So this is very much like an accompaniment charism. So a lot of times you’ll have someone with Helps organically come alongside someone with leadership or wisdom or discernment or another charism that really gives people like a vision, a big picture idea of where things are going, whether in a large scope or a small scope.

Jill Simons [00:01:19]:

And that person with Helps is going to be really oriented towards executing that vision that somebody else had. So a lot of times the textbook thing I will hear people say when they have helps. It’s like, don’t make me come up with the idea, but tell me about it, and if I love it, I’m going to be so all in on investing in it and bringing it to fruition. And that’s really, really common in helps. We see helps in organizations, in ministries, but also in marriages and families. There will a lot of times be one partner who has more of the visionary long term clarity about what is going on in a situation and the other person might have that gift of helps to really come alongside and execute that. And so you see that a lot in marriages that are very much partnerships and that’s not a requirement obviously, but that’s something that could be going on there.

Jill Simons [00:02:17]:

And then differentiating helps from service is really going to be about that forum where it gets used. So the action of the Helps charism might be the same as a service charism but service and we will go into that more when we get there. Service is going to be really like universal availability to serve. You see the opportunity to serve just as much when you’re sitting and watching your kids soccer game and you see that there’s a need, whether the coach needs something or a parent doing snacks or whatever. You see that need just as much as you see a need at your office for someone to have help carrying something. And it’s just wherever you happen to be, you see those needs. With helps it is very specifically geared towards bringing about that vision that someone else has. So this is one of those really clear charisms about why we need each other. All of the charisms should be that way, but it’s easier with some of them to kind of get this lone wolf impression of them like leadership or something like that.

Jill Simons [00:03:24]:

Or discernment like, this is just for you. You can go off and do this on your own. Helps there’s kind of no illusion that you can do this on your own because it’s baked right into the charism that it has to be in community and in communion with other members of the Church that it gets used. And that’s a reminder that all of the charisms are meant to be that way. That’s not something that’s exclusive to Helps. Every single charism is being called into being used in symphony with the whole Body of Christ. That’s why we talk so frequently about this metaphor of being the Body of Christ and then breaking that down to use our information from our vocation and our charisms to really get some cellular data about ourselves. What kind of cell are we in the Body of Christ? Where do we fit in the Body of Christ? So that we’re not just kind of floating there wondering what’s going on, seeing a couple people with leadership charisms and going oh, they know what they’re doing and we have no clarity about why we’re there or what we’re doing.

Jill Simons [00:04:29]:

And that’s the heartbreaking part, I think. People that do not have knowledge of these very particular spiritual gifts they’ve been given a lot of times that just means it doesn’t mean that they don’t have them, it doesn’t mean that they’re not being used, it means that they haven’t identified them so they can’t value them. And Helps is a big one that people struggle to put language to. Without this language of charisms, it will feel like I just don’t really have my own ideas. I don’t really know what I want to do. But if somebody else comes up with something, I’m good at helping them. And that can feel like a lesser thing, when, in actuality, that is the role that you’ve been called to play. And those people with visionary ideas and long term plans could not possibly bring them to fruition without you.

Jill Simons [00:05:21]:

It is an incredibly necessary piece of the puzzle and I encourage you, if this is one of yours, to really pray about what is that forum right now in my life and this can change throughout seasons of your life. It’s not like you have the one mission for your whole life and that’s it. It’s typically one at a time, however, so typically there’s kind of one big thing you’re all in on at a time. And just really spending some time with the Holy Spirit asking where is it that you’re calling me to be all in right now? And so as we go through the examples in the “1001 Ways” book for Helps, that’s a little bit different than some of the other charisms because it’s less of a do this today and this other thing tomorrow and something else next week, and it’s more ideas of where Helps can show up. So what does it look like to, in kind of an everyday way, use the Helps charism? What’s more of an intermediate good way to test? And what are you looking at for harder and advanced ways to use this charism of Helps to accompany someone. And not every one of them is going to be available to you in your life right now. All of the encouragement options anyone could do pretty much wherever they’re at in life. Helps is going to be a lot more specific to your situation, and the ideas in the book are really about getting the ball rolling and bringing you openness to whatever inspiration the Holy Spirit wants to bring you about your forum for using your gift of Helps. Thanks so much for joining us on today’s episode of Charisms for Catholics. If you would like to learn more about your charisms or begin your own discernment journey, head to our website at manypartsministries.com where you can download our free PDF guide to all 24 charisms and also begin your own journey by taking our charism assessment.